Yoni Steam at Home

Yoni Steam at Home

When I move the FLOURISH clinic to a new office location this spring, I’ll no longer be offering Yoni Steams. My intention when I offered Yoni Steams (also called Vaginal Steams and V-Steams), was to bring awareness to this sacred healing therapy.

If you’ve been wanting to try one in the office, but haven’t been in yet, now’s your chance. Coming in for a steam also helps if you want a 1:1 tutorial on how to steam at home.

I’m offering discounts on first steams and steam with a friend options until I move. Learn more here.

While steaming at an office can provide guidance on herb choices and takes away the time it takes for preparation and clean-up, Yoni Steams are very easy to experience at home. 

In this blog, I’m going to share the simple step-by-step process to perform a steam at home and some basic herbs for a general relaxing steam. 

If you’re having any kind of symptoms, I would advise you to seek counsel on which herbs to use and when to steam. As a general rule, if you have a menstrual cycle, you should steam during ovulation and/or right before your menses and if you don’t have a cycle, you can steam anytime or use the moon cycle for guidance. 

How to prepare a yoni steam:

Step One

Dedicate a bowl that can set inside your toilet. I use stainless steel. You can use any material that won’t be affected by the boiling water.

Use a large enough bowl that it comes about even with the top of the toilet bowl just under the seat level.


step two

Prepare your herbs (see list below for choices).

Place 1-2 Tablespoons of each herb in your steam bowl for about 3/4-1 cup of herbs total.

Place the bowl with herbs directly into your toilet.


step three

Bring at least 2 quarts of water to a roaring boil and pour the water over the herbs.

Put down the toilet seat.


step four

Sit right down on the toilet and wrap yourself in warm blankets.


step five

Relax and let the steam enter your yoni.

Remain in place for 25-30 minutes or until the warmth dissipates.

Common herbs for home steams



Calendula is known to heal tissues and nourish the skin.

Energetically, it’s thought to move stuck emotions and aid in recovery and grief.



Chamomile is known to be very soothing to the vaginal muscles.

It’s great for the emotions and helps reduce irritability, anxiety, and to lessen emotional outbursts.



Lavender is known for it’s support in healing menstrual pain and to maintain a healthy uterus.

It’s very helpful for relaxation and rest.


Red Raspberry Leaf:

Red Raspberry is known in herbalism for it’s ability to help strengthen and tone the uterine muscles.

It’s also thought to nurture and protect the person receiving the steam.



Roses smell divine and encourage love and healing.

Red roses help with romantic, passionate love.

Pink roses help with self-love and self-acceptance.


*There are many other herbs to choose for steaming. This list seems to be the most pleasing and most tolerated choices.



I hope this helps provide a simple guide for Yoni Steams at home. Please let me know what questions you have. If you’d like to take advantage of this last month of steams at FLOURISH, learn more here

New Year’s Musings Part 2: Writing Your Intentions

New Year’s Musings Part 2: Writing Your Intentions

If you missed part on of my New Year’s Musings: Why I Like “Intentions” Better than “Goals” or “Resolutions”, check that out here

There are a lot of opinions about how to best write intentions. There are very feminine ways of dreaming, visioning, and creating that leave a lot of space for what’s possible. Then, there are the very masculine ways of setting goals that are SMART (specific, measurable, achievable, relevant, and time bound).

I like a process that’s somewhere in the middle, a more balanced approach. Most of the people I work with are high achievers anyway, so setting masculine goals doesn’t support the need to also have time to rest and play and be creative.

Below is my 5 Step Process for creating intentions that work.

Step one:

Take some time to think about what you want to see come to fruition in the near future in all areas of your life: 

~Personal Growth

Step Two

Write a few sentences about why each one of the things you want to see come true are important to you. 

Why do you want these things to happen? 

Step three:

Think about how you’re going to feel when you get each one. 

What emotions will achieving this evoke for you? 

Get specific….feel it in your body like it’s already true.

Write down these feelings. 

Step four

Who are you going to need to be to make these things happen? 

What character traits do you already possess that will support your intentions?

Are there any new character traits you’d like to begin embodying to create the life you most want? 

Add these to your list. 

Step five:

Write your full intentions in a sentence that you can read aloud to yourself. 

Read your intentions at least twice daily, once in the morning and once right before bed. 

Consider reading them many times per day, making them into the background on your computer or phone, create graphics of them, write them over and over.

Each time you read your intentions, be sure to feel into the feelings you’ll feel once they come true. 


I’m going to give you a really practical example from one area of my life, so you can get the idea.

Step One: What do I want…
I want to wake up to a clean kitchen every morning.

Step Two: Why do I want it…
When the kitchen is clean, I’m more motivated to cook more complicated meals that include more fresh vegetables.

Step Three: How will I feel when I get it…
More fresh vegetables mean better digestion for a more healthy gut and more energy. I’ll feel light and energized so I can show up as my best self for myself and my clients.

Step Four: Who do I need to be…
I need to be organized in my time management and dedicated to making this a priority.

Step Five: Putting it all together…
I stay organized and dedicated to cleaning my kitchen every evening, so that I’m motivated to cook more vegetables so I can feel light and energized every day.

Do you see how different this feels than me just telling myself that I have to do the dishes every night? Dishes are my LEAST favorite household chore and I tend to walk away from the dirty kitchen after dinner.

When I do that and I wake up to the chore I like the least, it brings down my mood immediately, so I already don’t feel as energized as I could.

Then, because I don’t have time to do them in the morning, the pile is still there at the next dinner time and I’m more likely to grab a quick, less optimal meal so I don’t create more mess…a vicious cycle. 

This is a very practical application of the process. You can use it for anything. Maybe you want more time with your sweetie? Maybe you want to move your body more often? Maybe you want to be more organized at work?

It doesn’t matter. What matters is that you get into the “why” of what you want and the feeling behind it, because what we really care about is how we feel. 

Now, when I don’t feel like doing the dishes, I can ask myself, ‘Do you want to have energy tomorrow?’

The answer is almost always a resouning, “Yes!”.

Give this process a try and let me know how it goes. 

If your intentions include upleveling your health and wellness, I hope you’ll consider scheduling a session with me for support.  

New Year’s Musings: Part One

New Year’s Musings: Part One

Why I Like “Intentions” Better Than “Goals or Resolutions”

It’s that time of year again, the time of resolutions and new goals. You know how it goes. You’re all excited for that big new goal and you get going right away in the new year. And then, in about 3 days, you give up. Now some of you might last longer than that, but my guess is that very few new year resolutions actually come all the way true. 

The problem is with how they’re created. 

Often, we make new year’s resolutions out of some sort of disappointment in ourselves, not feeling like enough, or from a place of lack. For example, how many people can you name right now who every year set a weight loss goal? They feel bad that they’ve either gained weight or haven’t yet lost previously gained weight, so THIS IS THEIR YEAR! 

Can you see already how setting a goal from a place of shame, disappointment, or struggle might not be optimal? 

And, I would add that most of the time when people come to see me in my clinic to help them with their new year’s resolution, the goal is often WAY too big to actually be able to attain. 


This is why I like the word intention better.

The dictionary definition of intend is to, “have a course of action as one’s purpose or objective; plan”. So, an intention is, “a thing intended, an aim or plan”. 

Did you know that in medicine intention means, “the healing process of a wound”?

Intention works so much better because often underneath our new year’s resolution is some sort of healing that needs to take place. 

So, if we look at what we intend to create in our lives and we’re willing to see that some sort of healing might need to take place to get it, doesn’t that seem like a better way to go about it?

After working with thousands of women (and many men, too!), I see how much healing needs to take place when it comes to acceptance of ourselves and particularly of our bodies. 

When we set a goal about weight, go on a popular diet, or restrict our eating without intention (and healing), it’s no wonder we can’t reach that goal. 

What if…

What if you gained weight because of stress, but you’re not doing anything to reduce stress or support your body in it’s ability to manage stress more efficiently? Do you think boot camp exercises or a highly restrictive diet are going to aid your body in this process? You’re very likely going to make things worse or hurt yourself deeply. 

What if you love sugar because you were rewarded with sugar whenever you were a “good girl” or every time you had fun with your family? Of course, you want sugar. Cut yourself some slack. Maybe your intention is to find new ways to reward yourself when you are celebrating or for having fun. Fulfilling your deep inner need will bring you much more joy than sugar, but sugar works too, so be sweet to you. 

What if you’ve gained weight because of an underlying health issue and you’re refusing to go in and get checked out. Maybe it’s not as complicated as you believe it might be? Maybe there are some simple shifts you can make in your life to overcome this? You won’t know unless you find out. 

Last, on this. What if you gained weight because it’s the natural course for your body? What if your body is beautiful just like it is? The deeper healing here is acceptance of her for who she is.

It always happens this time of year and this year, I can’t keep my mouth shut.

Everyone, you are beautiful. If your body is not feeling optimal for whatever reason, come in and see me or see someone else, just get support. 

And, as you set your intentions for 2021, I hope you’ll set ones that work for you and not against you and that you’ll be willing to look for the healing underneath.

Next week

Next week, I’ll share with you my process for how I set intentions for all areas of my life.

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3 Tips for Self-Care During the Holidays

3 Tips for Self-Care During the Holidays

The holidays are a notorious time for overextending, overcommitting, and overspending. This year is obviously a little different, yet I’m hearing some common themes in my patients.

I’m here today to tell you that it’s OKAY to NOT do any of that and to take care of you instead! 

Here are 3 ways you can practice self-care during the holidays that aren’t your typical self-care recommendations:

1. Say “no”.

You know what happens. You’re on the phone with someone you love and they ask you to do something you don’t really want to do and you say “yes” out of guilt or obligation.

Later, you beat yourself up for committing, your partner is irritated, and the whole thing becomes a really big deal.

Just say “no”! When you feel it’s a “no” in your body, speak your truth.

You’ll save yourself and your family a bunch of grief, and you won’t overextend yourself with things you don’t really want to be doing.

2. Don’t Do Things Unless They Bring you joy.

Holidays are full of traditions. Many of them are really wonderful and bring us a great deal of joy. Others we do for different reasons: maybe we do them because we “always” do them, maybe we do them because other people do them for us, or maybe we do them because we feel we “have to”?

Whatever the reason, maybe it’s okay to NOT do a few things?

For example, we decided not to put up a live Christmas tree this year. Normally, this brings me joy, but this year, it was feeling like a lot of extra work. We would have to go out in the dark some evening after work when it will likely be raining, put the thing up, add the lights, get out all the ornaments, and then do it all in reverse. (I talked about this Live on my weekly Wellness Wednesdays at Noon video on Facebook. You can watch it here.)

I simply don’t want to do it this year, so we aren’t. And, I felt a huge wave of relief when we made that decision.

Maybe for you, it’s something else like sending out holiday cards, or making cookies, or going to someone’s house who isn’t being safe with COVID, or ???

Whatever it is, I give you full permission to simply decide not to do it.

3. Don’t overspend.

It’s tempting during the holidays to try to make it “perfect”. This can include spending beyond your means. Try not to spend so much that you have to repay yourself well into the new year.

If funds are tight, start new traditions, buy gently used items, ask friends if they have any hand-me-downs that would be appropriate for your family. Little kids, especially don’t care if something is brand new.

And, buying or receiving used items is better for the planet.

Make a budget and stick to it and think of it as self-care rather than feeling deprived or disappointed.

Of course, you can do other self-care things like taking a salts bath, doing some deep breathing, or even a short break with a nice cup of tea.

I’ve learned over the years that those things are nice and it’s the deeper level of self-care like the suggestions above that make a longer lasting difference.


Happy Holidays to you and yours!


Do you have other tips like these? Please post them in the comments below.

4 Festive Non-Alcoholic Beverages

4 Festive Non-Alcoholic Beverages

With the holiday celebrations in our midst, there’s also a lot of alcohol and a lot of sugar. When you don’t want to drink alcohol for whatever reason, you’re generally offered a beverage with a lot of sugar. Or, you’re offered water only, which never feels very festive to me.


Today, I’m sharing 4 festive and delicious non-alcoholic beverages you can enjoy without the effects of booze or even more sugar.


First up, is kombucha. While some people worry that there’s alcohol in kombucha, the amount is low. The fermentation process of anything naturally produces alcohol, but commercially produced kombucha has to have an alcohol content of 0.5% or less. This is about the same amount as in orange juice.


I love kombucha for the bubbles and there are many, many different flavors available.


My favorites are still the ones made right here in Portland by Brew Dr. I love berry flavor, so I’m a big fan of the “Superberry”. I also love the “Love”. Looks like they have a new seasonal called “Vanilla Blossom” that looks like a fun one for the holidays.



Next, I recommend bitters. I talked about these in my Wellness Wednesday Facebook Live this week. I like the bitters concoctions made by Portland’s, The Bitter Housewife. They are delicious added to soda water. Just add lemon or lime for a perfectly splendid mocktail.


Bitters have some benefits as well. They stimulate your digestive juices to help you digest your food more easily, so consider a drink with bitters for after your holiday meals. I’ve been enjoying the “Lime Coriander”. Bitters will also contain alcohol, but because you’re only using a few drops, it’s like taking an herbal tincture. If you are sensitive to alcohol, I would avoid this choice.



Third, becoming more and more popular here in Oregon are CBD-infused beverages. These have no THC, so aren’t psychoactive in any way and might even help relieve aches and pains. There are many brands available, but I find that some have a strange after taste that lessens the experience for me.


My favorites come from Aurora Elixers, also located locally. They’ve done an excellent job with their packaging and I always feel really special when I get to drink one of their beverages. My favorite is the “Rosemary Grapefruit”. I especially appreciate that they don’t add a lot of extra sugar. Looks like they have a fun gift set available for the non-drinker in your life.



Last up is an Izze/La Croix combination. Both of these brands make many different flavors, so you can mix and match and have an endless variety of drinks. My favorite is the “Sparkling Pomegranate” Izze with “Lime” LaCroix with a twist of lime and/or real pomegranates.


Add this to a pretty glass and no one will be the wiser about what you’re drinking. There’s no added sugar and the combination will make at least 2 mocktails.


So, there you go.

 If drinking alcohol doesn’t feel aligned for you, I hope you’ll listen and do what feels best for you. Just because you’re not drinking alcohol doesn’t mean you can’t sip on something delicious.


Be sure to allow yourself some pretty glassware, fun shaped ice, an herb or fruit garnish, a festive straw, or whatever else brings you joy this holiday season.


 Do you have a favorite non-alcoholic beverage or mocktail recipe? Please share it below and be sure to pass this post along to friends who might enjoy it!

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